Have you ever wished your partner could understand you better? Do you wish your partner was better at communicating their feelings and what is true for them? Well, creating that dynamic can be done with the right skillset and the right tools.
Read More“Boldly go in the direction of your dreams.
Stand tall and show the world what you are made of. When the world beats you down, find a reason to get back up again. Never give up on success.
Try, try, try and try again. Feed your mind ideas of success, not failure…”
Read MoreMother-son journaling to the rescue! Relationships experience phases. Early in life, a son might crawl upon his mother’s lap to cuddle. Later on, it will be high-fives instead of hugs. And at some point, the son might move away entirely. Then what? What if phone calls go sideways. What if texting doesn’t feel like enough, but also too much at the same time…?
Read MoreGrieving loss is a daily practice that prepares us for major occurrences. If we had to suffer devastating tragedy day-after-day our spirits would brake and our hearts give up. And if we avoid recognizing the daily sufferings as opportunities to endure, then we will never be ready for when life and death are made very very real.
Read MoreLife transitions are exciting and full of stress. They bring about new growth opportunities, as well as sap the energy you have to put toward them. First-time home buyer? Going through a breakup? Getting married for a second time? Get furloughed but are unsure if you’ll actually be hired back long-term?
Yes—the uncertainty of the past re-creating itself, the unsureness of the future panning out as you’ve planned—it’s an incredible endeavor to find the joy, meaning, and patience in it all. A therapist can help by being a stable presence in your life while the tides of life are crash ashore.
Read MoreAnxiety isn’t an “issue” when it’s the right thing at the right time.
Our culture seems to think that keeping our emotional spectrum between Happy and Ambitious is the only way to be healthy. But that isn’t biologically or psychologically true.
Anxiety is an evolutionary adaptation meant to protect us. So, perhaps an important question is: what do I need to be protected from? My dad’s temper when he gets home from work? My partner’s lies about her ‘guy friends’?
There are many things in our broken world that we don’t deserve to suffer, but suffer them we must at first. Then we decide the limits to which we are willing to go the extra mile.
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Seek counseling to find out the deep meaning of suffering what you are going through, and where to draw the line.
Read MoreDepression doesn’t have to overtake you, but it may need an invitation into your life at times.
Does your relationship with Depression need to change?
Read MoreYou are influenced by those around you. Those you value. Those to whom you belong.
It is important to know who are you to your family and what your family values. You can live your life trying to create your own way, but will find it a lonely path if what you pursue is not a path others are walking with you.
Use this resource to help invite your family in, to find a way of being together.
Read MoreCounseling is many things, and developing emotional fluency is one of the most important outcomes.
I practice the “I feel…” statement with my mens therapy group, my romantic partner, and my clients. I ask clients to practice by texting me “I feel…”s daily.
The resource linked here has everything you need to develop you emotional vocabulary and means of expression. Well, everything except the relationship with which you feel things.
If you would like to practice feeling and expression, let’s connect…
Read MoreGrace shows me the bigger picture.
Grace says that I don’t have to be perfect, nor does anyone or anything in my life. Grace says “just do the next right thing.” Grace is kind, gentle. Grace shows me how I deserve to be treated: with respect and curiosity. Grace doesn’t judge a person or situation, it asks ‘What makes this make sense to you?’ Grace is patient in that way that sees when people are in a bind—caught in the tension between two seemingly necessary evils, or when someone is just trying to do their best, honestly, and it is just too much sometimes…the kids, the work, the prejudice, the injustice, the misrepresentation of who they are as a person and misunderstanding of their actions.
Read More“Do not be satisfied with stories that come before you. Unfold your own myth.”
-Rumi
“The priviledge of a lifetime is being who you are”
-Joseph Campbell
Read MoreI commonly get jealous of people I love because they get to hangout with themselves ALL THE TIME!! Something, especially right now, I do not have the privilege of doing.
Read MoreThere’s no 5-step plan for how to get over her…there is only your natural healing process of tears, talking, journaling, and silence. There is no right away to handle your dad’s death, only Pain can help you understand what you need for you…to heal naturally.
Read MoreIn our techno-world machines are making us in their image—prone to productivity as a purpose for being, never sleeping, and always “on”. Read more about Living the Slow Life—which is to say the human life that is still connected to nature rhythms of the earth, plants, animals, and our natural way of being.
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